Relevant to the blog title, don’t you think? S’why I chose this guest post by Rhian Farnworth, a freelance writer based in London who writes on a variety of different topics including cosmetic surgery, digital trends, social media and music.
Today I got hit by a bombshell – my partner wants a boob job. Now, I know, to some people this would be a dream but to me and many guys that I’ve spoken to it is a nightmare!
My partner is great, and we are happy together, but apparently now she needs a breast enlargement to feel better about herself. Improve her image and how people see her but two things strike me about this – why does she need other people to find her more attractive when she has me and how do you just wake up one day thinking that you need a boob job?
I mean, to me, these are horrible – they move funny, they don’t feel right and I certainly don’t find them attractive! It seems to be a 21st century trend that is still spiralling out of control. Maybe it’s just an alpha-male philosophy that cosmetic surgery is unnecessary but I’m pretty sure I’m not on my own in that belief.
I live by the rule play with the hand you’re dealt, and I have no idea how our daughter will react. Is it right that she should see my partner splashing out on something like this? Surely, if she ever came into money I wouldn’t want her to use it in the same manner?
Anyway, with my rage about this I researched why people do get breast enlargements and it seems it’s not too dissimilar to someone getting their teeth fixed – it’s all about self-image. When it comes to vanity, you can’t agree that they should get it done for the sake of bigger breasts because not only is it unnecessary but a lot of men don’t even find fake boobs particularly attractive.
A couple of reasons why women get boob jobs:
- Correct the shape – With the world that we live in now, many people are keen to lose weight. From a female perspective, this can change the shape of your breasts and reshaping could be the answer. Similarly, even without weight loss, many women are born without perfect chests and want to make it more natural.
- Post-pregnancy – Possibly the single most used reason for a boob job. Pregnancy is a difficult process, not just for men, but also for the woman as well. Often, this results in low, sagging breasts – for the women as well – and having surgery can return breasts to pre-pregnancy appearance.
It’s even more obvious once you take a deeper look that something like this could affect a person. From the outside it’s easy to judge but she’d never mentioned it before and I like them the way they are to be honest!
If I love her then surely she can love herself without the need for a boob job? I’m still dead against it but I can now see the reasoning behind it and will back my partner if that’s what she wants to do. Cosmetic procedures are done by millions of people worldwide to do jobs that range from miniscule efforts to large surgery so I will make sure that my partner knows the pros and cons but I don’t think I should stand in her way.
Hi Ben,
As a guy who has been through this exact same thing and had the exact same feelings I thought I’d chip in.
So, after our son was born my OH wanted a breast enlargement
(She had actually wanted one since she was 16, so that was 16yrs she had wanted one, but after pregnancy she was even more determined)
. I wasn’t happy – my experience of women with breast enlargements were mainly when I was a teenage lad and a few girls my age had their breasts enlarged – so my memory of this time was “feel these” “check these out” and tiny tops, personality change and to be fair pretty trashy…
I kept telling my OH I loved her just the way she was and I was scared she would change if she had the op (selfish me, she is the love of my life, I should have known she wouldn’t change).
After her explaining exactly how she felt she went for it, I still wasn’t happy but thought I should support her.
It’s now 3 (ish) yrs later, she didn’t change. She was happier in herself and more confident yes, but it didn’t make her act like a trashy 18yr old like I was scared it would.
final thought. I’d never been a fan of “Fake Boobs”…. well ….we are now 3 ish years down the line and I rather enjoy em, and most importantly she is happier than ever with her body.
Danny